By
Jonathan
Udren
JERUSALEM-Come the end of December,
everyone's mind seems to be focused on new fad diets, health
club memberships and the newest quit-smoking gadgets.
But the focus of the Jewish New Year is not about reducing
physical dependencies, but increasing the spiritual in all
areas of our lives.
A new collection of interviews by Chana Weisberg,
"Expecting Miracles: Finding Meaning and Spirituality in
Pregnancy Through Judaism," comes to illustrate how pregnancy,
childbirth and motherhood are all, indeed, opportunities for
spirituality and personal growth through the eyes of Judaism.
Its U.S. release just before the Jewish New Year is
appropriate, considering that Rosh Hashanah is the day
humankind was born. We even refer to this in the Rosh Hashanah
prayer service, where it is called Yom Hora'at, or the Day of
the Birth of the World.
Weisberg's book offers about 50 interviews with a diverse
group of mothers within the religious Jewish community of
Jerusalem.
Interspersed among the interviews is a kabbalistic birthing
meditation, assorted teachings on pregnancy and birth from the
cannon of classic Jewish literature, as well as a spiritual
teaching about birth from the Breslov Chasidic tradition.
This collection investigates how Judaism serves as a
spiritual tool during pregnancy; it also is intended to
empower women by broadening their understanding of motherhood.
"We're surrounded by incredible mothers, but we don't see
how incredible we are, how much we can teach the world, and
how strong we are, spiritually and physically and
emotionally," Weisberg says.
Although all the interviews were gathered from observant
Jerusalem women, the range of lifestyles embraced by the
interviewees is vast and the book is designed so that anyone,
regardless of their level of Jewish knowledge, can understand
their stories.
The mothers of "Expecting Miracles" range from a modern
Orthodox graduate of Columbia University who is still reeling
from her first birth by emergency Caesarean section, to a
fervently Orthodox Iraqi mikvah attendant and mother of 10 who
proudly boasts that she has never undergone a prenatal
checkup.
Even before "Expecting Miracles" hit the shelves, Weisberg
was known as the "Jewish Pregnancy Lady" to the 300,000 annual
visitors to her Web site, www.jewishpregnancy.org.
There, her fans find Jewish traditions and prayers for
pregnancy, clips from the book, as well as personal
interactions with Weisberg herself.
Both the Web site and the book are outgrowths of the
drastic change that Weisberg, now a mother of 3 young girls,
has undergone through her own child-rearing experiences.
Ironically, before the 32-year-old Weisberg became pregnant
with her first child, Hadas, now 6, she loathed the constant
chatter of mothers who spoke of nothing but pregnancy and
children.
"I always used to think, 'Married people with children are
so boring. They are the last people in the world that I would
like to talk to,' " says Weisberg. "I was much more interested
in my career."
Prior to taking the leap into motherhood, Weisberg was very
focused on getting a master's degree in social work at the
Hebrew University of Jerusalem.
"When I first got married, I was never at home," Weisberg
says. "The whole day I was either studying or working outside
the home, and I have a lot of hesitation about being a
mother."
"Then I got pregnant, and in a moment everything changed,"
Weisberg continued. "While I was finishing my master's at
Hebrew U., I felt such physical pain sitting in the classes
because I felt like they had so little to do with me. All I
wanted to do was lie in bed, read pregnancy books and think
about babies."
For Weisberg, as well as for several of the other
interviewees in her book, the transition from being an
independent woman into motherhood became a path of spiritual
and emotional growth.
The internal, 180-degree shift that Weisberg experienced
during her first pregnancy drew her to the bookstore.
"When I went searching for a book on what it means to be
Jewish and pregnant, I shockingly came up empty- handed. I
couldn't believe there had been nothing written on the
subject," says Weisberg.
The concrete plans for "Expecting Miracles" were born when
Weisberg became pregnant with her second child, Hallel, now 4.
Weisberg began writing the book that she had endlessly been
searching for throughout her first pregnancy.
"I had no credentials to be doing something like this,"
says Weisberg. "I'm not a writer or a midwife. I was merely a
mother of one child, which in this community means nothing. I
just had this burning desire to start this project."
"I just dusted off my old tape recorder, bought a notebook
and started setting up interviews with my favorite local
mothers," Weisberg added. "It was the only experience I've had
in my life of pure inspiration. I felt as though I was just a
messenger for this task that was coming from a higher place."
The book is chock-full of stories that show the
intersection of Jewish spirituality and pregnancy.
One woman was a former hippie who related to natural
childbirth like an 11th commandment. Another focuses on
praying and performing more commandments during pregnancy so
that she will have a G-d-fearing child.
Other women, who had grown up thinking that career would be
their life's focus are now struggling with their new
identities as mothers.
One of Weisberg's most touching interviews came from a
woman named Nili -- all names of the interviewees were changed
for anonymity-who is a genetic carrier of a rare and deadly
illness.
Weisberg explained that two of Nili's four boys suffer from
the disease, and constantly are sick from the symptoms. Still,
Nili sees her life as a tremendous blessing, and Weisberg
describes her as a "person with a tremendous amount of inner
strength."
When she gives birth, Nili takes advantage of what Weisberg
says is a Jewish idea-that the divine presence of G-d actually
is in the room when a child is born.
During labor, Weisberg says, Nili "would scream out
people's names who weren't married and the people who were
sick or suffering, or women who couldn't have children. All
the nurses would get together and give her names to scream.
"Once, at the same moment that Nili was giving birth, she
called out a woman's name in the hospital who was sick and
suffering. She died in the same moment" that Nili shouted her
name, the book says.
Though "Expecting Miracles" started as an academic
endeavor, a "case study" as Weisberg described it, the journey
took her and the book in a different direction.
"It was a process for me, and I let these women change my
approach to pregnancy and motherhood," Weisberg says. "I feel
so much love for Jewish women, for what we do and the wisdom
that these woman have, and I feel like that spirit infuses the
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